Musings of the LiL'Devil Mama

the Running Monkey

2010-04-15T21:44:00.000-07:00

Yesterday was a doozy! Just as I was settling into my workday routine with my work familia and beginning my workplace morning visit with Mr. BBG and Rachel Stoll about how ridiculous things can be sometimes, I got the dreaded call. The Preschool call. You know whenever the Preschool calls it's never good. I mean if it's not the 'Hey your kid scratched the crap out of Jimmy's face' or 'The Monkey

Focus!

2010-04-13T14:24:00.000-07:00

Here I am again. Post-Something Special and not feeling too worse for wear. Okay it only lasted about two weeks, but it was good for me to figure out how/why/what of me and HSD. It's done. It's over. I'm okay. I've decided to delete my on-line dating profiles and move forward for minute without them. Does that mean I'm on another one of my dating hiatus'? Eh, I don't know. If I happen to get a

Speed Dating!! Mama's Got a Brand New Bag

2010-04-09T14:26:00.000-07:00

Once upon a time there were two girl who's explored the world of dating and found that it falls short when you have to browse through pages of people are aren't be real. The write-ups are amusing but boast nothing promising and there are numerous repeat offenders who post pictures that are either old or don't show there face or feature too many people to decipher who is really the person posting

the Mama & the Body Art

2010-04-08T12:07:00.000-07:00

I'm taking a leap. Doing things I don't normally do. Actually thinking about me first and foremost, and not working through the harmful thought process that involves putting others first before me. And it feels good. Truly it's like I've opened a door on something and me thinks my Therapist is going to Poo a Golden Brick when I see her next time. The tough part is really taking me by the Horns

the Cowboy & the Mama

2010-04-07T14:28:00.000-07:00

In the past weekish, I've had a few Dudes from my past make reappearances. Mr. S, Mr. San Diego and the Cowboy all have peaked there head back into my life just at the moment when I was feeling some hopeless angsty-ness over this whole on-line dating thing. I've been waddling through this whole patch of losers and not-so-loser-y gathering of Men and sort of teetering on giving up for now. (I do

the Good Time Girl & HSD

2010-04-06T13:55:00.000-07:00

So...yeah...I had a movie date last night with HSD. Totally impromptu and sort of well one of those things. Let me just start of by saying, I batted this one around for pretty much most of the afternoon. I mean we'd chatted on the phone after the dinner escapade last Sunday and I really wasn't sure I wanted to see him...at all. Part of my was glad he got to vent and the other part of me was sad

Hardly the Best...but Last?

2010-03-29T14:02:00.000-07:00

I'm not sure I want to write about last night at all. Ugh. I feel like I should though. Just get it out of my head and move forward. Finally, HSD and I met up for dinner. Well he came to pick me up at my place. There was an instant strangeness about his demeanor. Truly it was odd to me only because his usually chattering shyness was replaced by a silence that I couldn't place. It wasn't the

PSA: Tech Stalking is not Pretty

2010-03-26T10:56:00.000-07:00

A recent post by my dear fellow dating Blogger The Urban Dater about the lunacy that drives some women to text men endlessly and literally kill a relationship before one exists, got me to thinking about how some of my female friends even abuse such mediums as email and dating sites to harass men endlessly for answers. It made me giggle because shortly after a friend texted me that she hadn't

Less is NOT More: Dating who you Want

2010-03-25T12:05:00.000-07:00

In a previous post about Mr. Disclaimer I started spouting about the Less Than Man. And I've done a lot of thinking about the Less Than Man; or Woman to suit your purposes. And with Hot Single Dad emerging as a part of my life with details to follow our possible Movie Date at mi casa on Friday, I've done even more thinking on the subject.What is the Less Than Man, you ask? He's (or she's) the guy

HSD Returns: Cape Not Included.

2010-03-23T15:22:00.000-07:00

And we're back...Hot Single Dad whom officially I let go of back in December (see post here and here) of 2009 has made a resurgence into my life. All with one stupid text, he's back. Okay not officially back but he's made it clear that he 'misses me'. Now the mind reels with thoughts of the how and why after all this time does he miss me now??? There were obvious reasons I exited the relationship

Happy Birthday, Tio Claudio.

2010-03-23T11:12:00.000-07:00

Today would have been my Uncle's 41st Birthday. My heart is surrounded by such a variety of emotions. I'm at a crossroads in my life and I'd give anything for his guidance. Really truly you don't know what you've got until it's gone...

Fix It, Mami

2010-03-17T10:00:00.000-07:00

Last night my Mami had her second surgery in relation to the Brain Tumor that has caused such pain for my Mami physically and emotionally. It's really completely changed the way we live our lives. I look at my life differently. I embrace my Monkey just a smidgen tighter. I fear things in the smallest but slightly neurotic way.I didn't write about the Tumor in the beginning. Honestly, I feared it.

Save the Drama for your Mama.

2010-03-16T13:35:00.000-07:00

After my post yesterday about Mr. Disclaimer and the great comments from my homegirls @SingleMomSays, @tbdetermined_09, @TsQuest and my newest Twitter pal @runpippirun I felt great about my choice to nix the Douche in the Bud. Well then the BFF got involved...okay not by choice but Mr. Disclaimer dragged her into the drama of which I was not wishing to participate in. Bottom line. Part of the

Mr. Disclaimer & the Comfort Zone.

2010-03-15T11:17:00.000-07:00

Let me start off by admitting that I'm confused about this situation. There is something about having your global group of friends not agree on an issue that leaves this Single Mama unsettled and unsure. But at the same time, I feel good about my choice. Ugh and so forth. The factions are divided on whether or not I was too hard on Mr. Disclaimer and his lame attempt at trying to date me.Rewind

the Change.

2010-03-11T14:07:00.000-08:00

Last night whilst lying on the floor of the Monkey's Room and wondering how I got Here. No, not on the floor of his room, I know how I got there and it involved listening to him breath (he's been sick) without invading his space. I mean the Here and Now. So that got me to thinking about the Life Changes that occur that we have no control over. The big ones that make Life transform into something

Date #12564: Meeting Mr. Disclaimer

2010-03-10T13:11:00.000-08:00

Disclaimer: This may very well be the worst post ever. I am exhausted and can't think clearly. Eck. First dates kill me. I don't get ubber nervous once I'm on the verge but I do tend to over plan and need the person I'm meeting up with to be on the ball. Honestly I go into this sort of stealth mode and have to make sure that my head is in the game. Be honest. Be yourself and don't let'em see the

Pessimist Walking

2010-03-05T08:54:00.000-08:00

Back in the saddle... I will not even summarize my last date and the drama that ensued over it...pointless. Don't even read about it unless you want a good laugh at how some guy's just don't know how to respond to honesty. Oh and a girl with a life. Bah. I've decided to throw caution to the wind. Even when the nagging voice in my brain starts to yank me away from a profile because of distance

the dITch Factor

2010-03-01T13:08:00.000-08:00

Update are not my specialty. Oops, I forget. But this one is special. So this weekend was full to the brim with stuff to do. However with the rain pending I changed my Ikea plans to having lunch with my BFF from High School and decided to get some shiz taken care of before my night out with my Lil'Sis and Bro-in-Law.Rewind to Friday...I didn't hear from Mr. New Guy until late in the evening and

the IT Factor...meeting Mr. New Guy

2010-02-26T12:04:00.000-08:00

Alright so we all know I'm shallow or 'picky' as my Mom calls it and I've skipped out on meeting guys because of height difference...shoot me! I'm a woman with a ticking clock in her mind. It's the Devil's work I tell you. (Note: always blame it on the Devil.)But my meeting of Mr. New Guy as supposed to be casual and effortless because we connected really well via telephone convo and texting. He

Mr. New Guy on Deck

2010-02-24T09:54:00.000-08:00

Alright so the glutton for punishment I truly am has signed up for OKC and POF...(insert giggles and laughter here). I'm done with pay sites for now like the one's I've been on in the recent past. None of the science behind the alleged matching has produced anything remotely close to a friggin' Match! No I mean seriously it's bunky (Monkey created word) if you ask me. So I took the advice of my

Eulogy for Kick Ass Tio

2010-02-22T10:02:00.000-08:00

While my heart is filled with a deep sadness, it is a great honor to be here with all of you today to celebrate the life of one of God’s most cherished children, Claudio Rodarte. On behalf of his brothers and sisters, his nieces and nephews and his wife, Christina, the family thanks all of you from the bottom of our hearts and from the depths of our souls for spending this day with us to remember

the Order of Operations...for Daters.

2010-02-15T11:15:00.001-08:00

Back to the show...dating. It's all a show, right? While I've been suffering from a bit of the downers I feel like I need to do something to pull myself out of it. Argh.A few weeks ago? Days ago? There was an ubber neato convo on Twitter about dating and how Men seem to skip, very often, from the "Hi, Nice to meet you" chatter to the "What color are your unders?" interrogation. After @

the Loss

2010-02-15T11:15:00.000-08:00

Just a few weeks ago, my family was struggling with the reality that my Mom was indeed suffering from the ill effects of a Brain Tumor. I know, right? A friggin' tumor? All I could think was 'people don't actually get tumors'...it's the stuff of movies and crappy dramatic TV. But my very own Mom had been struggling to get out of bed and even keep food down over the last weekend of January. So, me

the Social Worker of Dating

2010-01-29T14:42:00.001-08:00

After my last post and the previous one about being a shallow Mama I've done some recon work on my dating habits...and tons of chatting with Mr. Office Friend (best I can do and I refuse to call him Broken Butt Guy) and Ms. Office mate, I've decided I just can't do it. I will not meet Mr. N (nor will I translate what that name really means).Yes, everyone deserves a chance at love but not

Jump the Line

2010-01-28T10:39:00.000-08:00

There have been men folk in my life who I have thought were the Great Love of my life and then sadly some kind of smash-bang-boom occured and the end came. Thus destroying the possibility of that Great Love fantasy. Boo!! Alas enter the dreaded word...Dealbreaker. Every so often there is the re-entry of the One who I push away repeatedly. He's sweet and sarcastic. He adores me for every little