As I move forward with my head first dive into the concrete pool is on-line dating I find myself not looking closely enough before I leap...anywhere.
There are three matches sitting on deck and warming up but the one who appeared to be most promising not only lives far from me (about an hour away) he is also only 2 inches taller than me. Holy Jeebus. Really? I began Open Communication with said Matchie Match only to realize after going through the eHarmony motions that he is only 5'5" tall. Whoa. Personally, I'm used to dating men folk who are 5'9" and taller, not a requirement, just how it works usually. My first boyfriend as an adult was 6'5" tall and that was a smidge too tall in many arenas, seeing as I'm about 5'3" (if I may be so honest). But this guy has many good points...steady job, loves his family, helps his single Mom sister when he can and is looking for someone to 'make new memories with'...and he's kinda hotish, too. But SHORT!!
Twitter Lady Friend @evewine101 shared this with me...
@lildevilmama I'm 5'10"...which narrows my POV even more. I say go for it, everyone looks taller with a good glass of wine in one hand!
Does height really make a difference? Could I be so shallow as to pass up someone who could the The One just becuase I don't have to stand on my tippy toes to kiss him? Or even bigger deal because I would feel weird wearing my favorite Wedge Platforms during the Summer Months?
I'd like to think the new me is not so shallow and that it really doesn't matter...and yet I find myself hesitating over the matter but not cutting him off because of it.
So does the Heigh Matter?
5 comments:
Well, first off, you are shallow for having a height requirement. Guess what? Most people are. I, personally, love tall women. The shortest gal I dated was 4'11" and I didn't really like it. On the other end, I dated girl that was an inch or so taller than me, I'm 6'4" and that was weird for me. So the women I date are 5'7" to 6'0" give or take an inch.
Don't feel bad or shallow. There's nothing wrong with knowing what you want and you needn't apologize for that.
Oh dear, I knew that was going to come off all wrong. It's not a height requirement silly! It's just what I tend to end up gravitating towards...but I get it and I don't feel bad, I have just never found myself in the situation to date someone nearly my height.
Back in my MySpace days I had a little short (very short) blog post regarding this exact thing:
Monday, August 13, 2007
You must be this tall to ride.
Category: Life
The question is this, do we have a height requirement, or more to the fact, a height limit. Just how tall is too tall, I ask.
You see this guy was wicked tall and although I like tall guys, I felt he was just too tall. But I suppose if we had clicked it would not have mattered that I needed a step ladder to look into his eyes.
The height thing would get to me a smidge too - I am also 5'3" but if he's 5'5" - that is pretty short for a guy, I agree. But hey, you could surprise yourself when you meet him and maybe it won't matter ;)
You're not shallow. Let's be real, physical attraction is important in a relationship. If you think you won't be attracted to him because of his height then that's all there is to it. I do, however, think you should meet him in person. We all change and that means what we are attracted to changes also. I would keep the online chit chat to a minimum and cut right to the chase and meet face to face. If he's all, oh I want to chat here for a while, blah, blah, blah then just fade out.
You know there could be a physical attraction issue so it doesn't matter what kind of person he is. It won't work if you don't like looking at him (or walking next to him).
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